People don’t want to discuss the tough questions before marriage, because they are afraid what the result will reveal about their relationship.
I feel it is better you know before getting married rather than regretting later.
Take a compatibility test if you know and feel you are matured for marriage as this is one of the biggest decisions in life.
Here are just a few of the marriage compatibility test questions you should be asking:
- Besides love, what is your main reason for marrying your partner?
- How important is affection? How do expect to express you affection?
- Does a marriage require work on your part? What will it entail?
- What does the word “compromise” mean to you and how will you apply it to your marriage?
- How much of a priority if your health to you? How will you deal with it if one of one contracts a life threatening disease?
- How do you keep in shape?
- Who does the cooking, dishes, laundry, vacuuming, dusting, garbage/recycles, kitchen floors and counters, bathrooms, grocery shopping, errands, lawn maintenance, snow shoveling, gardening, and odd jobs around the house?
- When married, will you look at pornography?
- Will you ever consider cheating on your partner? How will you react if you partner cheats on you?
- How will you react in a situation where someone makes a play for your partner?
- How important is good sex to a good marriage? How important is a good marriage to good sex?
- Do you want to have children?
- If yes, when should you start trying for children? How many would you like to have?
- Who is responsible for the child raising duties? Who is responsible for their discipline?
- How important are a nice house, car, clothes, and good job to you? How will you deal with it if you lost everything and have to start over with nothing? Can you be poor together and survive?
- How much of your income would you like to save?
- Do you gamble, drink alcohol, smoke, do drugs, and go out with your mates?
- What do you prefer? A rural setting, city life or a house in the suburbs?
- Who controls your relationship? Why? Can you live like this for the rest of your life?
- The toilet seat should be up? Down?
- How do you prefer to spend your free time?
- What is your idea of fun? What is your idea of the ideal party?
- What kind of vacation do you prefer to take? How often? How will you pay for it?
- Are you impulsive or a planner? How do you deal with the unexpected?
- Do you share the same level of religious commitment? How do you deal with it?
- How will you resolve things if you argue? What will you do if you partner is very angry with you and won’t talk to you?
- Can you trust your partner to keep his word? How would you react if you catch your partner in a lie?
- How do you get on with your partner’s family? Will your partner choose your side if they turn against you?
- Would you trust your partner if they called you to say they can’t get home for what appears to be a good reason – stuck at work, at the airport, missed a train, etc?
- Would your partner understand if you suddenly had to work longer hours/work at the weekend because you felt it would further your career or allow you to change direction?
- Do your arguments start harshly with much negativity, such as destructive criticism and sarcasm?
- Could you ‘cope’, without blame, if they became dependent on you for a period of time, because of a physical condition?
- Do you share your inner thoughts with your partner?
- Do you understand and accept how you partner thinks and make decisions?
These marriage compatibility test questions are just the tip of the ice-berg. There are hundreds more marriage compatibility test questions that need to be asked on topics such as religion, politics, sleeping habits, your home, eating/food, vacations and hobbies, pets, your upbringing, sex, money, and more.
Please do not only get married because you are in love. Ask the tough questions before marriage and spare yourself a lot of tears later.